Monthly Archive for September, 2011

Supporting Children, Supporting Caregivers;

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Message Dear Mike, I’m writing to you in hope that you would be able to help or answer some questions.

My brother Matt has been in prison for the last 5 years. His wife is now in Anoka County jail.

She has been in and out of jail for the last 5 years. They have 2 children ages 4 and 7 who are currently living with us.

I have cared for the boys on and off for the last 5 years. The longest period of time they lived with us was in 2008 and it was for 6 months.

Mom has been in and out of jail, more times than I can keep track. I’ve tried to get social service involved because she is a drug user and doing real harm to her children.

While she is in jail the boys do not officially have a legal guardian.

The 7 year old lives with us during the school year and he is a very bright little boy.

My husband and I have tried to do the “right” thing and care for the little boys.

We have 4 biological children and at times it is very difficult to manage our household.

Just recently mom went back to jail and I wanted to become a foster care parent to our nephews.

I was seeking financial assistance in order to pay for pre-school/daycare for the boys.

I had hoped for some financial help with daycare for the boys but, there is a 2 + year waiting list.

Which brings me to today.

In order for me receive foster care assistance I have to call the police and to have the boys put into child protective services.

This sounds scary and drastic when I just need a little financial assistance to help our family afford daycare for our nephews.

Is it possible that the only way we can have help with day care is to put the boys into a police car and make them live in a group home or with a strange family?

This does not seem right.

Any advice you could give would greatly be appreciated. Sincerely, H T

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1/3 of Georgia Foster Children On Psychotropic Medication

A MN juvenile court judge shared the medication histories of all the very young children that passed through her courtroom over a years time. It was staggering.

The investigation in Georgia I estimate to indicate low to average use of mind altering medications for children in child protection systems.

These drugs are used to subdue children. More often than not the necessary therapies are non existent and the children suffer because of it.

I have personally experienced the fully formed thoughts of suicide delivered by psychotropic medications when I was forced to take Topamax for migraine headache.

I have visited four year olds in suicide wards, and been asked by children in my caseload to please not make them take these drugs & I have written about the 7 year old foster boy that explained why Prozac drove him to hang himself (and leave a note saying so).

There is a growing body of evidence that therapy is critical in the event children are forced to take psychotropics.

Atlanta Journal Constitution article on the overuse of psychotropic medications on foster children;

http://www.ajc.com/news/georgia-politics-elections/georgia-launching-review-of-921678.html

 

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A Civil Rights Issue?

When I began as a guardian ad-Litem, a very young child in my caseload had been horribly burned when she was placed in a tub of scalding water by her 6 year old niece (the baby had very poopy diapers and was stinky).

The cold water pipe had frozen solid in the Minnesota winter & the landlord had turned the hot water heater to “scalding” to compensate for the absence of cold water.

My legally minded friend Bob Olson pointed out that if she were my child, an insurance claim would be made against the property owner & at least some justice might be served.

Bob gave me a name of a top attorney who I engaged to represent this girl. Within a year the attorney argued successfully in a mediation with the insurance company and awarded this child the top limit of the landlords insurance policy (the landlord had after all, allowed the cold water pipes to remain frozen solid that winter and caused burns that would leave the girl terribly scarred her whole life).

Today, this young lady has a college fund and is a little compensated for the burns that made her legs look like scales when she grew up in a crack house.

I expect that other very young children in child protection systems have been terribly injured with insurable claims that will never see the light of day because the crack mom don’t know & the caseworkers are not trained to see this as a solution.

It does not seem right to me that the only children to be compensated for their insurable childhood injuries should be those that come from healthy families. In fact, those that need it the most, don’t come from healthy families.

Bob can be helpful and reached at 651-690-3494

 

 

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World’s Best Foster Child Blog

I found this foster child blog to be hard hitting, honest, and compelling.

I was a Foster Kid

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How Bad Is It?

Matthew Degner, 14, Found Dead In Squalid Chicago Home Among 200 Animals

During a presentation to 50 social workers I commented on how long children were enduring horrible abuse before being investigated & anything could be done to remove the children from the abuse.

People commented that it was even worse than I had described it. One social worker stated that there was such a high bar set for responding that by the time she and her colleagues were granted permission to investigate, most children have spent two to three years in terrifically abusive homes and were damaged for life.

Her advice to us was to report animal abuse because animal abuse gets investigated & when it is investigated, those people see things that can trigger a social worker saving a child.

This seemed pathetic to me at the time, but now I tell people how important it is.

We are now suffering through the worst abandonment of civic responsibility to American children in my lifetime. The child that died in the Chicago home above, is another powerful example of a hardening of our hearts and disregard for the weakest and most vulnerable among us.

Service providers are so over worked and under resourced that only the worst of the worst cases are being investigated. About one in three reports is investigated today where I live in Hennepin County MN.

When the 18 month old baby drowned in the Minneapolis bathtub after 14 police calls to the home, Star Tribune reporters called me to gather information on how this tragedy can happen. My related case had 49 calls to the home before the children were removed (a prostituted seven year old and her five year old sister).

Normally when a baby drowns or is found in a dumpster, social workers are blamed, much like teachers are blamed for failing students, or the police are blamed for “not caring enough” about my accident or rape.

The next time one of your friends complains about the indifferent police, problems in the courts, schools or social services, remind them that we the service providers are working harder than ever, with fewer resources, more children, and a growing feeling of abandonment.

The caseloads are so high, the morale is so low, and the failure to fund new programs and make small cost effective improvements because of budget restraints ensures that our failures and unhappiness can only grow until the demand for attention, understanding, and change is heard.

We are in this terrible place where children drown in bathtubs and die in cages for the same reason the 35W bridge collapsed and killed and injured 160 people. We think we’re saving money.

The economic reality is that maintenance of children and bridges pays. When we don’t spend the small money to save children, bridges, and our communities, we have to pay the big money instead.

Instead of saving the 5 million dollars to replace the gussets on the 35W bridge, we spent almost a Billion dollars to rebuild it (not counting the human suffering).

Instead of saving the relatively small amounts of money to make life bearable for abused and neglected children, we pay millions over their lifetime for chronic illness, the burden on schools, social workers, crime, preteen pregnancy, & prisons (not including the human suffering).

Convince yourself, your family, and your friends that not voting, or not voting for the party that supports programs that improve the lives of children is ruining young lives and destroying our community.

Don’t be confused by the fear mongering and political rhetoric. Every vote counts. Pass this article onto someone you think needs to see it.

 

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