Comments on: Abusing Children At Home & In School – The Life Of An Abused Child http://www.invisiblechildren.org/2010/03/07/abusing-children-at-home-in-school-the-life-of-an-abused-child/ Kids at Risk Action (KARA) - Children's Rights Advocacy Network Fri, 10 Feb 2012 21:58:08 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Wanda http://www.invisiblechildren.org/2010/03/07/abusing-children-at-home-in-school-the-life-of-an-abused-child/comment-page-1/#comment-12031 Wanda Sun, 18 Apr 2010 14:04:14 +0000 http://www.invisiblechildren.org/?p=1523#comment-12031 Dear -A Mother How can "shape up or ship out" help children who have no idea how to shape up bc they have never experienced what a normal response to anger should be. They are mostly acting out how they have been treated. I saw in my town that two women were approached outside of a restaurant by a male who demanded their money. One woman said she began to cry and say, "please don't hurt me, I have children." The man responded by saying, "lady, I don't give a d--- about your children!" I thought about this exchange and honestly can't blame the man for his response. We expect people to care about 'our' children, but yet do we care about theirs? Did anybody care about that man when he was a child? I once saw on tv that a little boy named PJ had been beaten to death by a parent and step parent. That night I lay in my bed sobbing and I thought, God how can you just sit there and let this happen? And I heard a reply that absolutely freaked me out. I heard, "I dont. You do." Dear -A Mother
How can “shape up or ship out” help children who have no idea how to shape up bc they have never experienced what a normal response to anger should be. They are mostly acting out how they have been treated. I saw in my town that two women were approached outside of a restaurant by a male who demanded their money. One woman said she began to cry and say, “please don’t hurt me, I have children.” The man responded by saying, “lady, I don’t give a d— about your children!”
I thought about this exchange and honestly can’t blame the man for his response. We expect people to care about ‘our’ children, but yet do we care about theirs? Did anybody care about that man when he was a child? I once saw on tv that a little boy named PJ had been beaten to death by a parent and step parent. That night I lay in my bed sobbing and I thought, God how can you just sit there and let this happen? And I heard a reply that absolutely freaked me out. I heard, “I dont. You do.”

]]> By: a mother http://www.invisiblechildren.org/2010/03/07/abusing-children-at-home-in-school-the-life-of-an-abused-child/comment-page-1/#comment-9607 a mother Sun, 14 Mar 2010 16:52:09 +0000 http://www.invisiblechildren.org/?p=1523#comment-9607 It is hard to deny the comments made. Teh problem is that they are made out of context of the true situation. If these children are alone in an environmetn with only adults than every measure should be taken, every care given. However they are not. They are in the calssroom with other fragile children. We have shifted the burden of these needs of these damaged children onto the backs of other children! the are NOT invisible children. THey are seen every day by the children whom they intimidate, bully and hurt. THey are seen by the children who are denyed an education and a future becasue so many resources are drained form them in care of these other children. They are seen by the children who are not able to be seen themselves becasue so much of the teahcers focus is on the problem children. They are seen. We are at a point in our society where we have to say enough is enough. Is the "poor you" approach what really helps these children? Or is ti the "shape up or ship out" approach? WHich serves them better in life? WHich will get them into colleges, and into jobs with real futures (not jsut a paycheck). What message are we sending? You have had a bad life so we no longer have any expectations from you? Think about it. It is hard to deny the comments made. Teh problem is that they are made out of context of the true situation. If these children are alone in an environmetn with only adults than every measure should be taken, every care given. However they are not. They are in the calssroom with other fragile children. We have shifted the burden of these needs of these damaged children onto the backs of other children!

the are NOT invisible children. THey are seen every day by the children whom they intimidate, bully and hurt. THey are seen by the children who are denyed an education and a future becasue so many resources are drained form them in care of these other children. They are seen by the children who are not able to be seen themselves becasue so much of the teahcers focus is on the problem children. They are seen.

We are at a point in our society where we have to say enough is enough. Is the “poor you” approach what really helps these children? Or is ti the “shape up or ship out” approach? WHich serves them better in life? WHich will get them into colleges, and into jobs with real futures (not jsut a paycheck). What message are we sending? You have had a bad life so we no longer have any expectations from you?

Think about it.

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